So much stress!!

Wow, today I am really depressed and I am worried about Tony. Lisa came home on Tuesday to Sharon's house. Since then Sharon and Bea have been trying to take care of her, making sure she gets all her medications on the correct schedule. Which means Bea hasn't been to work in two days and Sharon hasn't slept in two days! This cannot go on indefinitely!!

So last night Tony went over to talk to Sharon about the whole situation and of course it was a mess. This is so difficult because it is very emotional, and Sharon is trying to do what she thinks is best for her daughter...but her emotions are clouding the issues. Tony is just trying to help her get things straight so this doesn't continue to become a larger financial burden on the entire family, including us. But its going to be a process, one that will most likely take a lot of time, effort and some money.

We are fine with paying the money for attorney's fees, but he has to get Sharon on board first. There are so many concerns and she is so stressed she can't even think about them all!! Something needs to legally get set up so Lisa can be taken care of with her own money. This needs to happen now because it will only get more complicated if she dies. Or if something happens to Sharon, then who will take care of Lisa? Sharon has to get her stuff in order to.

Sharon says that Lisa is getting better and can squeeze your hand and open her eyes, but unfortunately we don't believe she will ever be at a place where she is a functioning adult. This is a tragedy. And I cannot imagine how Sharon feels as her mother. I understand that of course Sharon and others in the family would want to believe that Lisa can recover, but at this point, even if she does recover, it would be years before she could be fully funcntional again. If she could regain control of her body internally, and actually eat and drink again, she would then have to re-learn all of her motor skills.

At this point, we think the family needs to get access to Lisa's money and assets and use that to provide her with care. Once her personal assets are exhausted, then she will be provided care through Medicaide. This may not be ideal, but the family cannot just stop everything in their lives to take care of Lisa themselves and spend all their money. As it stands now, three different people have paid Lisa's mortgage for the last three months.

This has to get resolved in the best way for Lisa and the rest of the family. And of course this is on top of the usual drama....Sharon dealing with issues at her shop, everyone pitching in to help Granda, us pitching in to help Bea....

This is a very clear lesson that we all need to have our wishes documented, and documentation prepared that will assist our family if something terrible should happen to us. This should be done when you can think about it objectively and make rational decisions about your future, and your families future. In the midst of all this, Tony and I have to get that done as well. While he is working to help the family, I am going to work to get us set up so we never have these kind of issues.

And this really needs to get resolved with Lisa and his family before we have a family of our own and we can't help as much as we can now! I just have to try to stay out of it as much as possible. I wish I could be more help for Tony, but I cannot let this stress me out any more than it already is, for my health and the health of the baby.

I pray for us all.